By Nana John Besong
Stories about forced marriages and female genital mutilation (FGM) are common
in some parts of Cameroon in particular and Africa in general.
Female children, who get to maturity and young
women, have tales to tell about decisions taken on their behalf by family
members. Some of these decisions have to do with forced marriage, in some cases
even to the unborn female child by an ‘agreement’ of two independent families
whose heads have their parochial interests to protect.
In Cameroon, an estimated 47% of girls
under 18 reportedly get married - usually against their will - because they are
seen as an economic burden to their families. These girls often remain in
poverty because they leave school to marry and have no access to
income-generating opportunities. They are more likely to be victims of domestic
and sexual violence; highly vulnerable to sexually transmitted infections including
HIV; and they face a high risk of complications, even death, during pregnancy
and childbirth.
Cameron’s Civil Status Registration (Ordinance
No. 81-02 of June 29, 1981), in its Article
52 states: “No marriage may take place:
1) If the girl is younger than 15 years…unless for serious reasons and a waiver
has been granted by the president of the Republic”
This law appears to be largely disregarded in rural settings as village custodians
insist on the respect of their traditions and customs.
On a recent outburst on the dehumanizing effects of FGM, Dr. Joseph Tabi
Tabi, a medical doctor practicing in Douala, Cameroon made the following remark
about FGM:
“This is a situation whereby the clitoris of a
female is taken off in the village setting during the process of circumcision.
This is the removal of the clitoris in the vagina.”
He regretted the negative effects of FGM.“There are several
complications that come in thereafter. The
issue of HIV/AIDS comes in as one blade is used for many persons in the
process. There is civilization and increasing awareness of things happening
around us. The youths of today say no to FGM and forced marriage and it should
be abolished.
A
lot of young girls in Manyu Division in Cameroon are fleeing the area. Grace Ngwai
Agbor, now in Europe reportedly fled form Cameroon because every time she went
to her village in Manyu Division, she is said to have been reminded by her
family there that, she had to undergo the process of FGM, a practice she
detested and publicly condemned
Found in this dilemma, she reportedly
decided to leave the country. And that
is how Cameroon lost one of her upcoming and resourceful youths to another country.
Another lady, Kareen Nyasa Bosung,
a University of Buea law graduate, has her own story to tell. A native of Akwaya,one of the most enclaved regions of
Cameroon, Nyasa Bosung has been battling
with her family members over cultural practices she thinks are old-fashioned .
“I heard this story before and it is now very clear
to me that the practice of forced marriage and genital mutilation has a
stronghold in Akwaya villages,” Bosung regretted. She is said to be on the run
after her life was made unbearable by a ceratin Mr. Tabi of of same village
when she refused to respect a forced marriage arrangement. He stalked her even
after she ran away from the village.
Haunted by the scare and members of her villagers who wished to see
Bosung succumb to these traditional practices, this young woman is not only
psychologically traumatized, but has reportedly lost her marriage to her
husband.
Hear her: “They called me a prostitute who ran away to marry another man
even though I was already married. They
cursed me several times, shouted and swore I will never prosper nor succeed in
my life.”
The educational system in rural areas is a great push factor for early
marriages in Cameroon. Gender based violence(GBV), poor infrastructure, gender
bias teaching material(text books), cultural practices which discourage parents
from fully investing on the education of women, and a non-conducive learning
environment are all motivating factors for girls to drop out of school.
Hailing from a rural community, I have observed that most girls who drop
out of school have marriage as a main option. Thus, education in rural
communities should be made not only more accessible and efficient but also more
welcoming to girls. Girls should be encouraged to finish their schooling
because education can give them more opportunities and independence. Legal
measures which render education compulsory and free for all should be
implemented by all African Governments so that women and girls will be able to
depend on themselves for a livelihood and not turn to men and early marriage to
sustain them. Family Life Education should also be introduced into schools so
that boys and girls will be educated about the dangers of premature sexuality which
lead to unwanted pregnancies. If a girl should become pregnant prematurely, she
should be given the opportunity to continue with her education before and after
childbirth. Adult literacy rates need to be improved to encourage a change of
mentality which will consequently favour the promotion of girls’ education.
Education is fundamental to establish gender equality. Laws should be
translated into simple formats and local languages for everyone to understand
so that they can see the importance of gender equality and development.
Perpetrators who force this responsibility on women should be punished by law
whether it is in a context of conflict or not. The imposed status of marriage
has chronic long-term consequences for women, while the men who force the
marriages lose nothing. Forced marriage should be a codified crime prosecuted
to the full extent of the law.
Forced marriage and the resulting early pregnancy, and other traditional
practices, are harmful to girls but because they are deeply rooted in mentalities
and cultures, combating them is a real challenge. Some practitioners, some of
whom are women, understand how damaging these traditions are to girls’ health
but because of fear of being discriminated against by their communities, they
hold on to them and socialise the girls to accept them as normal. These
negative customs cannot be eradicated unless the harmful mentalities of the
practitioners are eradicated. Those fighting for change should also understand
the reasons for those beliefs and practices so that they know where and how to
open the communication channels to change these mentalities and behaviors.
Mentalities need to be changed if legal actions against these traditions are
going to be accepted and gender equality promoted.